Habits are the basis of the quality of your life. It’s not what you do every once in a while that counts, it’s what you always do, every day, even if it’s small, that makes the real difference.
Wikipedia defines habits like this:
A habit (or wont) is a routine of behavior that is repeated regularly and tends to occur subconsciously.
The American Journal of Psychology (1903) defines a “habit, from the standpoint of psychology, [as] a more or less fixed way of thinking, willing, or feeling acquired through previous repetition of a mental experience.”
I am convinced that you, me and everyone else lives the life we have created through our repeated actions, that is habits.
When I smoked, for example, I did it impulsively and repeatedly, sometimes without even thinking. It had become part of my day, my life and my identity. Quitting required commitment.
I’m always looking for insights into what makes successful people successful. The simplest answer is that they do what others do not do, but what is it exactly?
I would like to share five habits of thought and action that are common in extraordinary people.
are not driven by Avarice.
Have you ever met someone who has become rich, that is, not born into wealth, but has built his wealth? Did you notice that they did not rush to acquire what they have? Greed leads one to believing they can become rich without making effort, or without creating any value. It does not work that way. If you want to become happy, satisfied or successful, you have to commit yourself, greed is counterproductive. It is better to be committed, passionate and competent.
Socrates — ‘He who is not contented with what he has, would not be contented with what he would like to have.’
- They encourage
more growth and improvement, even if already successful.
Being successful or having lots of money does not always make you happy. Growth and improvement, yes. How will you evaluate your life, and what have you done, when you are on your deathbed? Do you think you will be happier about the amount of money you had, or about the experiences, the adventures, the people, the challenges, the help you gave, the people you loved? It is no coincidence that Albert Einstein said “try to be a man of value, not a successful man”
have perseverance and self-discipline.
We all know what works for us; we all know what we should do to improve ourselves but few do, why? Muhammad Ali said he hated every minute of training but in those moments he thought about what he wanted: the results. He knew that to be a champion he had to train hard, that’s why he was so disciplined. Many think that self-discipline is limiting and too much of an effort. I believe it is freedom at its highest expression. Instead of being a slave to the emotion of the moment, or your impulses, become a master of your actions and manifest what you want thanks to your commitment.
maintain good and quality relationships.
Rarely can one be happy, or successful, alone. We all need others. Certainly not everyone, only those who are right for us. Surround yourself with people better than you; spend more time with people who, like you, want to grow. People that inspire you, that motivate you. You will think more about them than your success or riches when your journey of life is at its end.
Making promises is easy. Doing what is said is difficult. Read any newspaper, listen to someone on TV, or go to the bar or where you drink coffee and you’ll have an example not to follow. The world is full of people who “should” do something they never do, or individuals who say they will but do not. There is no luck in growing up, doing it every day with little things you have promised yourself to do. There is no luck in cultivating relationships and being a person of value.
Extraordinary people do these things and I try to do the same, it has been proven to work.